GF Issues

*Edit*: Think I just needed to vent some. The combination of positive feedback and negative feedback some how has made me feel better. I guess all we can do is go from here. Thanks to everyone who helped. Now to log off my Alt and get back on my Main...
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  • Think of it this way, she didnt trust you with her name, what else doesn't she trust you with? :eek:
  • Think of it this way, she didnt trust you with her name, what else doesn't she trust you with? :eek:

    I mean, she has told me a lot. But after she told me that wasn't her name I said, "Well... what's your name..?" and she just says, "I don't want to tell you" :/
    But yeah, she seems to have trust issues and she can be really insecure about things. I've just been ignoring her, I don't even know what to say to her. Feel like everything has changed. -.-
  • I mean, she has told me a lot. But after she told me that wasn't her name I said, "Well... what's your name..?" and she just says, "I don't want to tell you" :/
    But yeah, she seems to have trust issues and she can be really insecure about things. I've just been ignoring her, I don't even know what to say to her. Feel like everything has changed. -.-
    Thats because it has. If she cant trust you with her name and you've been dating for 11 months, how do you know she isnt keeping anything else from you?
  • Thats because it has. If she cant trust you with her name and you've been dating for 11 months, how do you know she isnt keeping anything else from you?

    Lol this reminds me of my ex girlfriend.


    OT: Whatever happens, happens. I'm sure she has her reasons for it. Some girls are very self-conscious. Some, very childish & immature. And most girls are C-R-A-Z-Y.
  • Thats because it has. If she cant trust you with her name and you've been dating for 11 months, how do you know she isnt keeping anything else from you?

    All i can really rely on is her word. And that obviously isn't always true. So, I guess I don't know.
    Think I'm just going to talk to her and see if there's anything we can do to work it out. Cause I can't think of anything else to do. Only other thing I could do is ignore her, but how long could I hold that up? Anywho..

    EDIT:
    AKZ1 wrote: »
    Lol this reminds me of my ex girlfriend.


    OT: Whatever happens, happens. I'm sure she has her reasons for it. Some girls are very self-conscious. Some, very childish & immature. And most girls are C-R-A-Z-Y.
    Yep. Indeed they are.. lol
  • AKZ1 wrote: »
    Lol this reminds me of my ex girlfriend.


    OT: Whatever happens, happens. I'm sure she has her reasons for it. Some girls are very self-conscious. Some, very childish & immature. And most girls are C-R-A-Z-Y.

    Some people also have bad names. My one is Kin Jong Poon. Sound familiar?

    Kim-Jong-il1.jpg

    Which is WHY I go with "Jamie".
  • All i can really rely on is her word. And that obviously isn't always true. So, I guess I don't know.
    Think I'm just going to talk to her and see if there's anything we can do to work it out. Cause I can't think of anything else to do. Only other thing I could do is ignore her, but how long could I hold that up? Anywho..
    Ask for her name and bring up the fact you've been dating for 11 months. If she still says she cant tell you then I'd advise you to end it.
  • Ask for her name and bring up the fact you've been dating for 11 months. If she still says she cant tell you then I'd advise you to end it.

    Yeah, you're right. I can't really see our relationship going any further without knowing her name.
  • Is this an "Internet Relationship" thing... ?
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    Is this an "Internet Relationship" thing... ?

    I wouldn't call it that. It wasn't like I went on a dating website and was browsing for chicks all around the world lol. But if you mean, did we meet online? Then yes. She was just a friend I would text every once in awhile. Things happen though.
  • So.... it IS an internet relationship thing....
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    So.... it IS an internet relationship thing....

    'Course it is.

    The problem with long-distant relationships is that you will never be able to get the same level of intimacy you would with someone in person. Also, it's very easy to hide things from each other since you won't be speaking face to face.
    I advise you to talk to her about this and try and find out why she was hiding her real name. If she can't give you a valid reason, who knows what else she might be hiding.
  • Lammero wrote: »
    Those darn Hispanics stealing our jobs ...

    *sigh*

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  • Giggletron wrote: »
    So.... it IS an internet relationship thing....

    Like I said, don't judge. You've given no advice, so I don't see your point on posting. Thanks anyways?

    'Course it is.

    The problem with long-distant relationships is that you will never be able to get the same level of intimacy you would with someone in person. Also, it's very easy to hide things from each other since you won't be speaking face to face.
    I advise you to talk to her about this and try and find out why she was hiding her real name. If she can't give you a valid reason, who knows what else she might be hiding.

    I understand this. I didn't want to be in a long distance relationship. It's not like, I just liked her and that's why we are in a relationship. To really understand our situation I'd have to explain a lot of things that aren't necessary to the point of this thread. It is easy to hide things. I try to be open and I encourage the same for her. Thanks for the advice though.
  • Odd.

    Quite odd.

    I say, keep going, but be a little more cautious.
  • Quick note here, this is a thread on GF issues... not a place to start jumping the Racial bandwagon.

    Keep your noses clean and on topic!
  • Like I said, don't judge. You've given no advice, so I don't see your point on posting. Thanks anyways?




    I understand this. I didn't want to be in a long distance relationship. It's not like, I just liked her and that's why we are in a relationship. To really understand our situation I'd have to explain a lot of things that aren't necessary to the point of this thread. It is easy to hide things. I try to be open and I encourage the same for her. Thanks for the advice though.

    How do you two communicate? Skype?
  • Then heres my advice.


    All guys on the internet are guys
    All girls on the internet are guys
    And all children on the internet are the FBI


    Internet relationships arent real. Drop it. You really have no emotional attachment to people online. You merely think you do.

    Saying otherwise is a delusion.
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    Then heres my advice.


    All guys on the internet are guys
    All girls on the internet are guys
    And all children on the internet are the FBI


    Internet relationships arent real. Drop it. You really have no emotional attachment to people online. You merely think you do.

    Saying otherwise is a delusion.

    So what's Eharmony and match.com?

    Just blind attempts to make profits at this?
  • [MOD]9 wrote: »
    So what's Eharmony and match.com?

    Just blind attempts to make profits at this?

    As much as meeting a girl at a bar is with an entrance fee.

    Thats a different way to make people by exploiting people's social ineptitude.



    Teenagers meeting online and saying theyre "in a relationship" when they dont actually know them personally or physically is idiotic at best.



    What makes you think my real name is Tom? You dont know me and the last 3 years on this forum could have been a lie. I didnt even post that picture I claimed was me on the Mod thread. Bruce did.

    You dont really know anyone online.
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    Then heres my advice.


    All guys on the internet are guys
    All girls on the internet are guys
    And all children on the internet are the FBI


    Internet relationships arent real. Drop it. You really have no emotional attachment to people online. You merely think you do.

    Saying otherwise is a delusion.
    Giggle is right....it may not be what you want to hear but its true. If you continue to go with path, then dont expect truthful answers from her.
    [MOD]9 wrote: »
    So what's Eharmony and match.com?

    Just blind attempts to make profits at this?
    Those sites are online site made with the pure intent of getting real physical relationships. CrossFire clearly is not that, though I know people that have met thru the game and are in long term relationships.
  • How do you two communicate? Skype?

    Skype. Text. Phone call. I wasn't really serious for awhile. I had known her for 6 months before we started calling our situation a "relationship."
    Giggletron wrote: »
    Then heres my advice.


    All guys on the internet are guys
    All girls on the internet are guys
    And all children on the internet are the FBI


    Internet relationships arent real. Drop it. You really have no emotional attachment to people online. You merely think you do.

    Saying otherwise is a delusion.

    Call it what you will. I'm glad you've been so overwhelmed with relationships near you that you have not experienced a long distance relationship. You think you know Internet relationships when really you are delusional. <- See, its easy to tell someone they are wrong. The only advice there was "Drop it," and thank you for that advice. And nice try on the statistics.
  • Those sites are online site made with the pure intent of getting real physical relationships. CrossFire clearly is not that, though I know people that have met thru the game and are in long term relationships.

    One year later, Crossfire is a famous online dating website.
  • Skype. Text. Phone call. I wasn't really serious for awhile. I had known her for 6 months before we started calling our situation a "relationship."



    Call it what you will. I'm glad you've been so overwhelmed with relationships near you that you have not experienced a long distance relationship. You think you know Internet relationships when really you are delusional. <- See, its easy to tell someone they are wrong. The only advice there was "Drop it," and thank you for that advice. And nice try on the statistics.

    Ok then ignore my entire post and keep your head in the clouds. Internet Relationships are not true long distance relationships.



    How many more lies do you reckon she's told you?
  • Giggle is right....it may not be what you want to hear but its true. If you continue to go with path, then dont expect truthful answers from her.


    Those sites are online site made with the pure intent of getting real physical relationships. CrossFire clearly is not that, though I know people that have met thru the game and are in long term relationships.

    I'm not sure what those sites' angles are. Never really been to one. It does seem like more of a cash maker than a relationship maker.
    As for Giggle's "advice," I'm sure he has SOME truth in there. But not all cases are the same. My "delusional" feelings feel real. So who's to say they aren't.
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    Ok then ignore my entire post and keep your head in the clouds. Internet Relationships are not true long distance relationships.



    How many more lies do you reckon she's told you?

    I read your post and responded to it. I didn't ignore any of it. Seems pretty set-in-stone.
  • I'm not sure what those sites' angles are. Never really been to one. It does seem like more of a cash maker than a relationship maker.
    As for Giggle's "advice," I'm sure he has SOME truth in there. But not all cases are the same. My "delusional" feelings feel real. So who's to say they aren't.

    What are the feelings you have exactly? Do you love the person you have never met?


    I think youre misreading my posts as being hostile or me insulting you. Im just saying it how it is.

    I read your post and responded to it. I didn't ignore any of it. Seems pretty set-in-stone.

    Nooot exactly what I meant :)
  • Giggletron wrote: »
    What are the feelings you have exactly? Do you love the person you have never met?


    I think youre misreading my posts as being hostile or me insulting you. Im just saying it how it is.




    Nooot exactly what I meant :)

    Do you have to be with someone in person to love them? If your answer is yes, then you should start trying to be more open to new possibilities or be more optimistic. <- Does that even make sense. I re-read it and it doesn't seem like it does. Anyways, yes. Your posts came off as hostile. But, the smiley face lightens it up a bit.
    *Edit*: Consider thread ended. Read the first thread post.
  • First warning!

    After 3 years!

    ^^ = meow!
  • *Edit*: Think I just needed to vent some. The combination of positive feedback and negative feedback some how has made me feel better. I guess all we can do is go from here. Thanks to everyone who helped. Now to log off my Alt and get back on my Main...

    That was your alt? Why not post it on your main? Have something to hide?
    Oh the irony.