Feeling rather useless lately...

The Internet is probably one of the worst places to ask for help about a personal problem, but hell, it's anonymous (somewhat).

You a troll? You should stop reading here.

Background check of me:

I am a teenager in high school in classes that are a median between being of "average" intelligence and being of "I know the solution to world hunger" intelligence. My grades are mostly B's, with a few scattered A's, and the very very rare C.

So I've been feeling rather useless lately, as though I can't really make a difference in this problematic world, and that nothing really matters. I am fairly sure that this feeling has to do with my problem with extreme procrastination, laziness, and possible ADD.

Procrastination: I will tell myself that I will accomplish something, that I will do it at the designated time that I have arranged. Of course, when that time rolls around, I'm preoccupied with doing something like playing GTA, and I'll tell myself that I'll do it later. And it's a vicious cycle, until the deadline is in 2 minutes, and I realize that I'm screwed, and go into hyper-uber-work mode and miraculously finish it.

Laziness: I'll spend my time doing something completely and utterly useless such as browsing these forums or playing some game, or watching Youtube videos, when I KNOW that I should be doing the work that's due tomorrow.

ADD: I will start doing something, and then after a minute or two of doing it, I will just stop doing it and lie down or something. And then after 10 minutes of daydreaming/napping, I will get back up, start doing what I planned to do for another minute or so, and then repeat until someone comes around and sees me and I finish it.

Other things to take into consideration:

I usually do not get adequate sleep; I have found that getting adequate sleep does help alleviate it, but my procrastination and laziness/ADD continue to linger.

I DO have my group of friends and group of closer friends, but I rarely communicate with them outside of school, as I'll prefer to do something like shoot people in GTA.

List of "solutions" that don't work on me:

Taking away my computer: I'll find some other way to distract myself, like bounce some tennis ball around the room or something.

Making small "goals" for myself: I never do them.

Threatening myself: I never follow through with the threats.

So does anyone have any solutions? (My train of thought was stopped because I just had a Skype conversation for about 30 minutes [ADD?])
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  • Reward and Punish yourself.

    If you have a brother/sibling ask them to change your PC/game password until you complete a set task.

    If you do complete a task, in my case studying for 45 minutes, reward yourself with something. Ie, have some fun on the internet. Or you could ask your parents to pay you for your efforts, ie give you $/£ 1 for every session or reading you do.

    As to the distractions, go into a room that has no distractions. The parents' room is ideal for me, as there is no console/PC or phone in there. Then simply do not leave until you finish what you are aiming for.

    The "goal" thing works quite well, make sure you have something to aim for. Don't just say "I'm going to read for the test", rather something along the lines of "I need to change my B's to A's and get the best possible out of education".

    Since your a lazy person, start from here and read this wall of text and reward yourself immediately after. :p
  • KingstarKB wrote: »
    Or you could ask your parents to pay you for your efforts, ie give you $/£ 1 for every session or reading you do.

    Ask your parents for money for doing something you're supposed to do anyways? :confused:
  • You don't have ADD, you are just a lazy spoiled **** up.

    Grow up and do what you need to get done.
  • KingstarKB wrote: »
    Reward and Punish yourself.

    If you have a brother/sibling ask them to change your PC/game password until you complete a set task.

    If you do complete a task, in my case studying for 45 minutes, reward yourself with something. Ie, have some fun on the internet. Or you could ask your parents to pay you for your efforts, ie give you $/£ 1 for every session or reading you do.

    As to the distractions, go into a room that has no distractions. The parents' room is ideal for me, as there is no console/PC or phone in there. Then simply do not leave until you finish what you are aiming for.

    The "goal" thing works quite well, make sure you have something to aim for. Don't just say "I'm going to read for the test", rather something along the lines of "I need to change my B's to A's and get the best possible out of education".

    Since your a lazy person, start from here and read this wall of text and reward yourself immediately after. :p

    I'm only lazy about certain things, something like reading is too effortless for me to be lazy about it.

    And I always find a distraction somehow, if I force myself into a closet, I'll start picking at the wall or daydreaming.

    As for being paid, that's never happening. xd

    As for rewarding myself with something like some game time, I'm never actually allowed to play games even if I've finished my work, I'm only allowed to play on weekends for an hour or two each day.

    dooplpk wrote: »
    You don't have ADD, you are just a lazy spoiled **** up.

    Grow up and do what you need to get done.

    Thanks. >.<

    I've never considered myself spoiled, as my parents do the exact opposite of spoiling me.

    The thing is that I'll find some way to avoid them finding out; The only things I'm SUPPOSED to do on the computer is work, and I'm very rarely actually allowed to entertain myself, but I've found that two hours of entertainment a week is too little for me, so I'll do something else while my parents aren't watching or something.

    Of course, I've ended up overdoing it.
  • You have the same problem that 98% of teenagers do.

    You're so special.
  • awr_herp wrote: »
    You have the same problem that 98% of teenagers do.

    You're so special.

    Thanks, that helped. >.<
  • GoPancakes wrote: »
    Thanks. >.<

    I've never considered myself spoiled, as my parents do the exact opposite of spoiling me.

    The thing is that I'll find some way to avoid them finding out; The only things I'm SUPPOSED to do on the computer is work, and I'm very rarely actually allowed to entertain myself, but I've found that two hours of entertainment a week is too little for me, so I'll do something else while my parents aren't watching or something.

    Of course, I've ended up overdoing it.
    Truth hurts. What your life isn't flowery and sweet? I guess you should get some zoloft to go with your amphetamines.
  • As other people have said, every teenager does what you do. I never used to do work, I still got all A+ in A Levels/GCSE. When you get to university thats when you actually need to work.

    As for your laziness and general self-pity. You need to accomplish something, get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) or something, that'll boost your confidence.

    ADD is a lot more than just a short attention span, despite it's name

    I've got a ba hons in psychology ;p
  • dooplpk wrote: »
    Truth hurts. What your life isn't flowery and sweet? I guess you should get some zoloft to go with your amphetamines.

    I don't use recreational drugs.
    HackLose wrote: »
    Sounds like you need some fresh air.

    Miami has quite a bit of fresh air :D
  • GoPancakes wrote: »
    I don't use recreational drugs.
    they aren't recreational.

    what do you think they do if you have add? give you a pat on the back and say its ok, it's not your fault?
  • 'Chaos wrote:
    Oh;2895076']I've got a ba hons in psychology ;p

    can i ask why you didn't pursue a bs instead of a ba?
  • lol you don't have add. just lazy and i'm a procrastinator too but I get my work done all the time. Your problem is you have no life. if you go to school and then come home to play video games followed by a miniscule amount of homework from hs then your life is boring. Go out or do something else other than video gaming so you'll learn how to manage your time better.
  • Get a girlfriend or get a job.
    Not trolling, shet works. o.0
  • lol you don't have add. just lazy and i'm a procrastinator too but I get my work done all the time. Your problem is you have no life. if you go to school and then come home to play video games followed by a miniscule amount of homework from hs then your life is boring. Go out or do something else other than video gaming so you'll learn how to manage your time better.

    I don't actually have any video game consoles, and I do go out semi-often. It's still a distraction though >.<
  • Since when did Pancakes have lives?

    Shut the **** up and lather yourself in maple syrup. Then cover yourself in eggs and wrap yourself around a nice large lamb sausage.

    And put yourself ON A FRICKIN PLATE.






































    My Advice is flawless.
    Call me sometime.
  • GoPancakes wrote: »
    The Internet is probably one of the worst places to ask for help about a personal problem, but hell, it's anonymous (somewhat).

    You a troll? You should stop reading here.

    Background check of me:

    I am a teenager in high school in classes that are a median between being of "average" intelligence and being of "I know the solution to world hunger" intelligence. My grades are mostly B's, with a few scattered A's, and the very very rare C.

    So I've been feeling rather useless lately, as though I can't really make a difference in this problematic world, and that nothing really matters. I am fairly sure that this feeling has to do with my problem with extreme procrastination, laziness, and possible ADD.

    Procrastination: I will tell myself that I will accomplish something, that I will do it at the designated time that I have arranged. Of course, when that time rolls around, I'm preoccupied with doing something like playing GTA, and I'll tell myself that I'll do it later. And it's a vicious cycle, until the deadline is in 2 minutes, and I realize that I'm screwed, and go into hyper-uber-work mode and miraculously finish it.

    Laziness: I'll spend my time doing something completely and utterly useless such as browsing these forums or playing some game, or watching Youtube videos, when I KNOW that I should be doing the work that's due tomorrow.

    ADD: I will start doing something, and then after a minute or two of doing it, I will just stop doing it and lie down or something. And then after 10 minutes of daydreaming/napping, I will get back up, start doing what I planned to do for another minute or so, and then repeat until someone comes around and sees me and I finish it.

    Other things to take into consideration:

    I usually do not get adequate sleep; I have found that getting adequate sleep does help alleviate it, but my procrastination and laziness/ADD continue to linger.

    I DO have my group of friends and group of closer friends, but I rarely communicate with them outside of school, as I'll prefer to do something like shoot people in GTA.

    List of "solutions" that don't work on me:

    Taking away my computer: I'll find some other way to distract myself, like bounce some tennis ball around the room or something.

    Making small "goals" for myself: I never do them.

    Threatening myself: I never follow through with the threats.

    So does anyone have any solutions? (My train of thought was stopped because I just had a Skype conversation for about 30 minutes [ADD?])



    Go out more, go meet girls, drink beer, learn to dance.
    Get a good job, then get a good gf, maybe a few lady friends too,
    a few male friends. Surround yourself with cool, loving ppl,
    and stay as far away from *******s and jerks and *****es as possible!!!
  • What a loser! and you called me useless.........
  • Man the **** up!!! You are a ****ing champ. Did you know you beat millions of other ***** when your dad came inside your mother? You are lucky to even be alive. You beat the odds in forming life,plus you have more ****ing resources than most of the world has. Quit gaming,get a job/gf/set of balls,and man the **** up! Don't take **** from anyone! You make sure you give the world ****!!! **** the world in its ass and release your manliness all over its ****ing face.
  • Seems like you have a classical, internal conflict (it happens to most people at some point in their lives). You can't fix real life problems with thoughts, okay? Try to socialize more with other people, just be a human being and change your behavioral pattern with ACTION.

    I know what i'm saying because i'm overcoming it. Life is battling (DOING) everyday and sometimes **** happens.

    Don't try to play less, just do something else, something new (like talking to girls, helping old ladies crossing the street, etc) and you will see how everything makes sense.

    Fighting with the beasts in your mind can drive you crazy. I did it for 10+ years (since I was 11) and it turned me into a robot. Now I'm recovering slowly, but it feels great.

    :)
  • Since when did Pancakes have lives?

    Shut the **** up and lather yourself in maple syrup. Then cover yourself in eggs and wrap yourself around a nice large lamb sausage.

    And put yourself ON A FRICKIN PLATE.

    My Advice is flawless.
    Call me sometime.

    It's funny how you think you're funny.
  • Pist0la wrote: »
    I masturbate to men w/e.

    Disgusting fa.ggot........
  • Don't worry you aren't the only one like that. All teenagers think they have ADD. Even still people in college and on think they have ADD and often get easily distracted. Well one thing for sure if you should at least finish your hw because you play any games. You can do the occasional forum browsing for say a break, but don't play games since that will take up hours of your time.
  • You're in that phase of your life when you want to know who you are. It'd be best if you figured all this out on your own rather than looking for consulting from others who're probably going through the same thing as you.
  • iPhoenixi wrote: »
    You're in that phase of your life when you want to know who you are. It'd be best if you figured all this out on your own rather than looking for consulting from others who're probably going through the same thing as you.



    PS Men arouse my fo sizzle spot.

    *Cough cough* "who are" can not be made into a conjuction.... especially if it is "who're", which is not the who.re you are looking for...... And yes, men love to arouse your "fo sizzle" spot.
  • *Cough cough* "who are" can not be made into a conjuction.... especially if it is "who're", which is not the who.re you are looking for...... And yes, men love to arouse your "fo sizzle" spot.

    You again!

    I'm still curious as to why if, indeed, you are amazingly popular with the girls, you are on the forums rather than enjoying yourself. o_O



    By the way, as to this thread, I got myself a job; It might help with teaching me some responsibility and priority. ^_^
  • Pancakes, your life sounds exactly like mind, except mines worse.

    I got out a lot but when I come home it always comes down to CF/Playing PS3.

    I asked help for my procrastination but none was given but now I really don't care.
    I learned that even if I do procrastinate, it always gets done with a good grade and that's all that matters.

    As for friends, I usually make friends with everyone I know, even the hobo living across Krogers.
  • I know exactly how you feel.

    After school I always get stressed about homework or something, so i will procrastinate and get on CF or something. Then After awhile I will procrastinate more because I have the shortest attention span ever. It keeps going until it's like 10, and i have to go to sleep soon for school.