I love parents.

So today I wake up to a VoIP call from my sister (luckily I had wifi enabled) telling me our phones weren't paid. My sister and I had to scrounge together $180 to pay the phone bill since my mom can't pay for it any longer.

This was supposed to pay the bill up until Feb. 12th ATLEAST. You know phone companies usually pester the hell out of you before doing so but yea.

All this went down about 3 weeks ago, we were all freaking out, racing the clock to get it paid because none of us live near enough to each other to just go out of our way to visit so we need phones for contact. So we send the money to my mother in Kentucky and the phones some how happen to still get turned off. Coming to figure out it most likely got spent on alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so ****ed right now, I have a bad relationship with my mom and I've been trying to make it better bit by bit but screw it. She can go spend my money on alc/cigs.

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  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    So today I wake up to a VoIP call from my sister (luckily I had wifi enabled) telling me our phones weren't paid. My sister and I had to scrounge together $180 to pay the phone bill since my mom can't pay for it any longer.

    This was supposed to pay the bill up until Feb. 12th ATLEAST. You know phone companies usually pester the hell out of you before doing so but yea.

    All this went down about 3 weeks ago, we were all freaking out, racing the clock to get it paid because none of us live near enough to each other to just go out of our way to visit so we need phones for contact. So we send the money to my mother in Kentucky and the phones some how happen to still get turned off. Coming to figure out it most likely got spent on alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so ****ed right now, I have a bad relationship with my mom and I've been trying to make it better bit by bit but screw it. She can go spend my money on alc/cigs.

    Well i am sorry to hear that, It sucks to have abusive or Bad parents. I Feel your pain.
  • Its okay Aero, as long as your internet works.
  • Used to work collections for a Canadian carrier (Rogers). We didn't care if you told us the payment had already been made (check sent, payed at bank etc...). If the payment wasn't done directly through credit card over the phone, your ass was gettin' cut.

    What I'm trying to say is, give 'em the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they did pay on time, but until the payment is received (usually 3-5 days after) they won't unblock your service (and they still might take a few days after they get it, just 'cuz).
  • [MOD]Bruce wrote: »
    Its okay Aero, as long as your internet works.

    What's that supposed to mean lol


    And now I have to pay for my phone but she promised me she would pay it 'til I got a job. Since I'm only in the process of applying for jobs (pretty much got one locked down for Feb. 1st) I have to get a crappy phone :( Going to miss my droid for a bit.

    Used to work collections for a Canadian carrier (Rogers). We didn't care if you told us the payment had already been made (check sent, payed at bank etc...). If the payment wasn't done directly through credit card over the phone, your ass was gettin' cut.

    What I'm trying to say is, give 'em the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they did pay on time, but until the payment is received (usually 3-5 days after) they won't unblock your service (and they still might take a few days after they get it, just 'cuz).

    Well recently she's been bragging about not drinking or smoking as much lately. A few days after the money was sent to her she was posting on fb how she went and got wasted for the first time in awhile. She had absolutely no money which is why we ended up paying the bill. Me and my sister talked about it and was hoping one of her friends paid. Doesn't seem the case.
  • I'm sorry to hear that D:
    My mother was the same way
  • Time for a long-lasting eye-opening convo with her on the phone then.
  • Terroxify wrote: »
    Time for a long-lasting eye-opening convo with her on the phone then.

    Or not talk to her for another few months.
  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    Or not talk to her for another few months.

    That wouldn't improve things.
  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    Or not talk to her for another few months.
    I don't know your situation and can't really do much more that give my opinion.

    Nothing is forever.

    30 years down the road, will you regret not speaking with 'em more or not setting your differences aside? I can't really say, there are times that no matter how much glue you use, things can't stay together.
  • I don't know your situation and can't really do much more that give my opinion.

    Nothing is forever.

    30 years down the road, will you regret not speaking with 'em more or not setting your differences aside? I can't really say, there are times that no matter how much glue you use, things can't stay together.

    Well, over summer she kicked me out, I had to live with my sisters for the summer in Colorado (she lives in Kentucky). When summer is over I gave it a second chance to see if I could live with her, only lasted 2 weeks. Kicked back to Colorado, decided to move in with my dad for something more permanent even though he's not really the parental type and I'm pretty much on my own at 17 taking care of myself and such. I start talking to her around christmas (giving her a third chance) it was going well... we still didn't talk much but we were "OK" with eachother. Now this happens, I think 3 chances might be enough.

    Out of my 4 siblings of mine from her. 2 sisters a brother and me. Only 1 sister still talks to her because she chooses men over family.
  • That does suck indeed.
    Some parents seem not to know the responsibilities a parent has...

    I kinda have the opposite problem.
    Mine treat me like a king, always giving me what I ask them for, but I just "seem" to treat them back badly.
    They don't kick me, I leave by myself because I don't like being bad to them.
  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    Well, over summer she kicked me out, I had to live with my sisters for the summer in Colorado (she lives in Kentucky). When summer is over I gave it a second chance to see if I could live with her, only lasted 2 weeks. Kicked back to Colorado, decided to move in with my dad for something more permanent even though he's not really the parental type and I'm pretty much on my own at 17 taking care of myself and such. I start talking to her around christmas (giving her a third chance) it was going well... we still didn't talk much but we were "OK" with eachother. Now this happens, I think 3 chances might be enough.

    Out of my 4 siblings of mine from her. 2 sisters a brother and me. Only 1 sister still talks to her because she chooses men over family.
    Ouch. Hate hearing that.

    Do what you can, keep your chin up and have no regrets.
    Terroxify wrote: »
    That does suck indeed.
    Some parents seem not to know the responsibilities a parent has...

    I kinda have the opposite problem.
    Mine treat me like a king, always giving me what I ask them for, but I just "seem" to treat them back badly.
    They don't kick me, I leave by myself because I don't like being bad to them.
    Wouldn't the easiest solution be to stop "being bad to them"?
  • Ouch. Hate hearing that.

    Do what you can, keep your chin up and have no regrets.

    Wouldn't the easiest solution be to stop "being bad to them"?


    Wish it was that easy.
    Not for me, and it also involves some other problems.
  • I'm pretty cheered up now and just trying to forget it. Sis will be here soon so I can go get a phone. Already having withdrawals :P my phone ought to just be an extension of my left hand.

    The beautiful day has cheered me up though. 65 degrees and sunny is amazing this time of year. I'm wearing shorts and flip flops lol :)
  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    I'm pretty cheered up now and just trying to forget it. Sis will be here soon so I can go get a phone. Already having withdrawals :P my phone ought to just be an extension of my left hand.

    The beautiful day has cheered me up though. 65 degrees and sunny is amazing this time of year. I'm wearing shorts and flip flops lol :)


    Rains over here and you have sun there...
    Should be like that more often!
  • Terroxify wrote: »

    Rains over here and you have sun there...
    Should be like that more often!

    Well we had a blizzard on Monday and there's still snow on the ground but it's topping 70 degrees =]
  • IT_Aero wrote: »
    Well we had a blizzard on Monday and there's still snow on the ground but it's topping 70 degrees =]


    Rain is rare in here, and it doesn't snow (Not enough height).
    Always sunny and hot, it gets boring after a while :(
    So rain is very welcomed here nowadays :)
  • Parents seriously love you, no matter the abuse or neglect.
  • TomTomDam wrote: »
    Parents seriously love you, no matter the abuse or neglect.

    Never said she didn't love me, and I truly love her. Doesn't mean I have to speak to her.
  • Our mums would probably be best friends.
    I wouldn't mind punching her out if you needed :'}
  • loluBlow wrote: »
    Our mums would probably be best friends.
    I wouldn't mind punching her out if you needed :'}

    ... Falcon punch!