[Intelligent Discussions] Empathy

Kahlann wrote: »

A little disrespect can turn an ordinary boring conversation into a drama ridden fun adventure.

askjdlfjadsl wrote: »

Rawr, go download one of his spell-checks, you misspelled skill. :P

HitK wrote: »

Hello, some of you may know me, some of you may not. It’s not that it really matters though. In response to the, “lack of activity” from me, I have decided to come back start making these intelligent threads just as many have done before. You may say, I am doing my own series of threads that promote intelligent discussions and hard thinking. I’ve been wanting to do this ever since our very own [MOD] Polleus has done. These threads won’t be a daily implementation, but I will have some threads.

Just to clarify, if you guys think that I am “copying” Polleus, or that I am trying “way too hard to be a mod” (some critique that I have received from many forumers after posting my threads) you guys really should look at the big picture. I am making these threads in order to help the forums become a regular gaming forum, to an intelligent, nurturing, and promoting community or even a family. If you do not share these same ideas, but instead want to think in a negative manner, just don’t read this. Post a “cool story bro” or a “tl;dr” and show your lack of intelligence. Just remember, I called this before anything actually happened.

This is a series of threads. These threads are really not “informative threads”, I prefer to call them “discussion threads”. If you don’t know proper English (which pertains to proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation), there are many websites that can help. I also know, from my past experience and from my research, that some internet browsers such as Mozilla Firefox and Google Chrome, have spell-check, grammar-check, and punctuation-check built into them. If not, here are some helpful links:

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Due to a lot of discrimination a foreigner may experience in our community, mainly due to the fact that this is an English only forum, there are some decent online translators, such as Google Translator

Just to be clear, I bump the latest one every now and then until it becomes clear that nobody has anything new to contribute.

Well, without furthur ado, here is my thread that I bring to you today!

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Empathy [Intelligent Discussion #5]


Topic: Do you think that empathy should be something in which everybody should follow, or do you think that it leads to misconceptions of prejudice? What do you think should be done to promote empathy?



So, with this new code of conduct coming out, I couldn’t wait to add my own little bit of thought into it. Obviously it’s exciting, but it also borderlines empathy, which is the topic for today. We also must be able to see some hidden messages which I will possibly get into in the future, it’s not important. What is important, though, is our topic for today.

I personally think, that empathy is something that we all should exhibit and follow. It’s an amazing thing when a community as a whole abides, shows, and exhibits this. If you didn’t get the above definition of empathy, my condensed definition is that empathy is the act of putting oneself into another’s shoes and making an educated analysis of it. This means asking yourself, “What would they say or how would they react if I did this?” This usually prevents most of the problem [for example, trolling, teasing, or name calling] before it even arises. It’s basically a fancy word for the “golden rule” [I’m sorry, but this isn’t a religious view, this rule is commonly known around the world regardless of race, age, or religion]

I, being a human being, understand the pains and heartache of caring about every other human that we meet. I know, other people can be irritating, annoying, and just downright mean, but it doesn’t mean we really can confront them about it and make fun of them because of a few flaws. Let’s face it, we’re all humans, none of us are perfect and we’ll all turn out eventually, for better or for worse. We all make mistakes, and I’m sure we’re all aware of them, in one way or another.

To promote empathy, I think that the staff team should take more care [not that they aren’t doing enough, they’re perfectly fine at the moment] to the fact that many players lack empathy. They troll [pardon my mythological relation] others just because they feel the need. They don’t feel empathy, and won’t without proper help. That’s why the new code of conduct was arisen, to help people like you and me, who care about the community and want to help out.

It’s not exactly a huge thread, but all I want from you is to look at one fact : You are a difference maker. You can achieve what you believe, and nobody can bring you down to their level without your will. You make choices, whether them being not the best, they can be, if you really hope so.

I’m not trying to put false thoughts or hopes into your head, but all I’m challenging you to do is try to think about how others feel when you do something. You trolling somebody, maybe making a joke about them could just be the tipping of the glass that makes his world fall like a colossal glass falling on an urban city. Who knows, maybe they’ve had a hard day, maybe found out that they’ll be failing a course and having to spend an extra year at school when they could have been going on to post-secondary education and be getting on with life. Maybe a death of a loved one could have occurred? Possibly even family troubles or abuse?

I’m going to leave you with a famous quote: “An eye for an eye makes the world blind.” Obviously by visionary Mahatma Gandhi, he had a way to look at things which didn’t involve physical fighting. Before you take the other person’s eye, or even think about taking another’s eye out, think about the consequences for them, not you. Be selfless. Although, I doubt any of you would be provoked enough to take out another’s eyes in today’s society.

Thanks for reading, it wasn’t exactly the largest thread, but I hope I got my point across,


HitK [formerly HiTenKaey and SirHi]

Max_Skillz wrote: »

Conflict shouldn't be entertaining... It would be better if we all got along[period.]
Mature people can discuss things without being a bunch of arrogant brats.

In other words you can disagree and argue your point. But flaming and insulting and flat out being rude is COMPLETELY unnecessary. Saying trolls are funny or entertaining is just sad.

one_9 wrote: »

empathy cannot be apart of this game, because i believe that
a) a good portion of the community either doesn't understand the word and its meaning or...
most actions in a virtual environment have no feelings put forward (within that environment) (in my opinion)

for example, you can scream and rage at your computer...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q8swmaqyqf0&feature=related
but inside the computer (tron world) the game character sits there waiting for more user input

thats what i think

max_skillz wrote: »

all those who think these discussions are pointless are really misunderstanding their meaning.

In any environment real life or online, it's always the individuals choice on how they act. And whether or not they will choose to; learn and grow, or to be arrogant and selfish. Yes the internet has differences that affect some peoples attitude. But our ability to influence is the same regardless. Saying it's impossible to change things here is the same as saying it about people in real life. Yes some are impossible to change, but there are some who will gain something from wisdom spoken to them.

We can speak something to a crowd and they will forget it tomorrow, but we must speak it anyway.

Personally, i think these discussions would be more accurately labeled as "common sense", but seeings how common sense is no longer common anymore... I guess i can't really complain.

HitK wrote: »

I was saying that to one_9 who said that victims usually always try to make some random comeback, instead of just quitting and leaving their computer.

And the fact that you're using a quote from a first lady, first lady from America, no less, is actually pretty funny.

It's not hard to make others feel inferior.

You're not a troll, you're even worse than Protek, which is saying something.