help me. please.
i have two half brothers.
my mom had two children approx 21 years ago. she left them because the guy was abusive+addict.
she met my dad approx 18 years ago, married and had me, and my little brother.
my mom, knowing she had two other kids, visited them 2 years ago and talked to them about me and my little brother.
recently, my "half brother" had a child, making my mother a grandmother, and he would like to talk to her. but she ignored him, changed her phone number and everything. he knew my name, facebooked me, and told me everything, with picture proof and everything.
now, heres the thing. my half brother wants to talk to my mom. i don't know how to tell her, because my mom doesn't know that i know about this whole thing.
****.
i don't even know if my dad knows about this.
what to do?
my mom had two children approx 21 years ago. she left them because the guy was abusive+addict.
she met my dad approx 18 years ago, married and had me, and my little brother.
my mom, knowing she had two other kids, visited them 2 years ago and talked to them about me and my little brother.
recently, my "half brother" had a child, making my mother a grandmother, and he would like to talk to her. but she ignored him, changed her phone number and everything. he knew my name, facebooked me, and told me everything, with picture proof and everything.
now, heres the thing. my half brother wants to talk to my mom. i don't know how to tell her, because my mom doesn't know that i know about this whole thing.
****.
i don't even know if my dad knows about this.
what to do?
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I can't really say what to do in this prescice case. I never had any family. My mother is alcoholic and I know only my father's name and how he looks. But the only thing I have to say to this, is talk. Just talk. It will take time, it will take tears and pain. But talk the truth. And ask her to do so too. We all have secrets, but sometimes it's time to let the secrets fade away, so everyone feels better. Belive me dude, I know how bullsh'it life can me. Myself, I drunk 0.5 Liters of vodka just because life's a bit'ch. But there is no other way than to be honest.Excludable wrote: »i have two half brothers.
my mom had two children approx 21 years ago. she left them because the guy was abusive+addict.
she met my dad approx 18 years ago, married and had me, and my little brother.
my mom, knowing she had two other kids, visited them 2 years ago and talked to them about me and my little brother.
recently, my "half brother" had a child, making my mother a grandmother, and he would like to talk to her. but she ignored him, changed her phone number and everything. he knew my name, facebooked me, and told me everything, with picture proof and everything.
now, heres the thing. my half brother wants to talk to my mom. i don't know how to tell her, because my mom doesn't know that i know about this whole thing.
****.
i don't even know if my dad knows about this.
what to do?
I belive you know that lies will eventually be discovered. So it might be time to stop hiding your feeling, and your oppinion. Look, I know it will hurt to talk about it. I know that you probably think "WDF, an emo punk!" but look, I only want the best for you. I might not have been nice to you before, but here you got my honest opinion. Have a drink, talk to your closest friends about it, talk to your broher. When you finally ready for it, talk to your mother. There is no way it keeps going like this. And if you want something to change in this family, YOU are going to make this change. Unfortunately, there is no cheats or hacks. There's no easy way. But yeah, life is bullsh'it, I feel your pain bro. Just stand straight and look sharp. And you shall go through it. -
I can't really say what to do in this prescice case. I never had any family. My mother is alcoholic and I know only my father's name and how he looks. But the only thing I have to say to this, is talk. Just talk. It will take time, it will take tears and pain. But talk the truth. And ask her to do so too. We all have secrets, but sometimes it's time to let the secrets fade away, so everyone feels better. Belive me dude, I know how bullsh'it life can me. Myself, I drunk 0.5 Liters of vodka just because life's a bit'ch. But there is no other way than to be honest.
I belive you know that lies will eventually be discovered. So it might be time to stop hiding your feeling, and your oppinion. Look, I know it will hurt to talk about it. I know that you probably think "WDF, an emo punk!" but look, I only want the best for you. I might not have been nice to you before, but here you got my honest opinion. Have a drink, talk to your closest friends about it, talk to your broher. When you finally ready for it, talk to your mother. There is no way it keeps going like this. And if you want something to change in this family, YOU are going to make this change. Unfortunately, there is no cheats or hacks. There's no easy way. But yeah, life is bullsh'it, I feel your pain bro. Just stand straight and look sharp. And you shall go through it.
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Yeah I'm going through some badass BS too ATM, so I can feel this dude's pain. Anyways, let's stay on topic bro.
Aren't we all? At some point or another life gets hard, we have our ups and downs. But moving forward is the best we can do.
@Excludable, like most here have already said. It is best to talk about it, don't let this get anymore complicated then it already is. -
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I just have to +1 to what he said. Life is allways BS at one point, but that's where you come in. You're the only one who can make your life go the way you'd like it to be. Ofcourse, you can't see in the future and you can't see what are going to be the results of your actions. But when you will be at the end of your life, you won't have any regrets because you didn't done something you absolutely had to. Just look, I failed my life. I won't go deep in details, and if you want to know, just ask me in PM and I'll tell you a story wich will get you depressed for the next few weeks. But sitting there and saying "OMG I fail!" is not the way bro. Those moments are the ones where you have Responsability, and those moments are serious, REAL LIFE consequenses will be the outcome of what you do. You're the only one who can change the way your life will go on. If you need any support, dood, I'm ALLWAYS here for you. Just ask, and I'll fu'cking be there. Kicking and screaming, loving and thanking, I'll do my best to make you feel better. But whatever we say, and whatever we do, YOU are the only person who will make the things change. YOU are the only one who decides how you want the things to go further. Don't waste the chance you have, go fu'cking ahead and make things the way the have to be.Max_Skillz wrote: »Aren't we all? At some point or another life gets hard, we have our ups and downs. But moving forward is the best we can do.
@Excludable, like most here have already said. It is best to talk about it, don't let this get anymore complicated then it already is.
The best I can give you bro.
Vergil.
NoOneLovesU > Look dood, I don't want to be mean, but were you really in need to fu'ck up someone's feelings just because it's the internet? This is what I hate about this community. Just because you're so fu'cking "Anonimous" you let yourself fu'ck up other people's feeling. But WHY do you fu'cking do this? Would you like me to say 'FU'CK YOU LOOSER' if you opened a huge part of your life to me? I don't think so. So next time before you post, please think about the consequenses of your post. Thank you. No offence, and love from EmoTiiVe. -
Excludable wrote: »i have two half brothers.
my mom had two children approx 21 years ago. she left them because the guy was abusive+addict.
she met my dad approx 18 years ago, married and had me, and my little brother.
my mom, knowing she had two other kids, visited them 2 years ago and talked to them about me and my little brother.
recently, my "half brother" had a child, making my mother a grandmother, and he would like to talk to her. but she ignored him, changed her phone number and everything. he knew my name, facebooked me, and told me everything, with picture proof and everything.
now, heres the thing. my half brother wants to talk to my mom. i don't know how to tell her, because my mom doesn't know that i know about this whole thing.
****.
i don't even know if my dad knows about this.
what to do?
give me her address and 2 hours ill soften her up
on a serious note you should tell her about it and comfort her.
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cause her pu**y is sore from me. -
NoOne_luvsU wrote: »you think this thread is a joke. it is something serious in life.
Shut up. You act all holier than thou but you're actually the first one to make a mockery out of this thread by posting that list of ****ty responses.
Like others have said, the fact that this has gone on long enough is from the lack of communication. I'm sure those half brothers of yours are a harsh reminder for your mom of her dire past with such an abusive partner. Try to see this whole thing from her perspective. Whether or not it was her right to tell you about your half brothers or not is actually not up to any of us. I just advise you approach this situation delicately, with your mother's feelings in mind. Like I said, there's a legit reason why she's ignoring your half brothers. If you're going to approach your mom about this cover up of hers, be gentle, don't play the blame game and be on her side. -
Ok Just look through your Moms Point of veiw and try to understand what she went through. Although it does seem harsh to avoid Her Kids. But then again this was really long ago. All I can Say Is Talk ! Communicate with each other. You Can't blame her For forgetting the past and tryna move on. But hey you can always keep in touch with your half brothers and ur Half neice/nephew, I dont see the harm in that. Also Your father Idk If he might have an affect on this whole situation. But Time will Tell. Just listen what your mom has to say If u do bring it up. This is a very personal Family thing. Good Luck! i hope everything Goes Well !
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I totally agree with you. +1Shut up. You act all holier than thou but you're actually the first one to make a mockery out of this thread by posting that list of ****ty responses.
Like others have said, the fact that this has gone on long enough is from the lack of communication. I'm sure those half brothers of yours are a harsh reminder for your mom of her dire past with such an abusive partner. Try to see this whole thing from her perspective. Whether or not it was her right to tell you about your half brothers or not is actually not up to any of us. I just advise you approach this situation delicately, with your mother's feelings in mind. Like I said, there's a legit reason why she's ignoring your half brothers. If you're going to approach your mom about this cover up of hers, be gentle, don't play the blame game and be on her side.
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