2 Weeks
I have lived with my Great-Grandma for the past couple years or so. I love her more than anyone else in the family and she's always been there for me. But about 5 weeks ago, she was diagnosed with cancer. They don't even really know what type it is because when they found it, it was in her liver, lower lungs, vena cava, kidneys, and upper lymph nodes. She was scheduled for Chemo yesterday but the doctor said she wouldn't give it to her because of how nauseated she was. We went back this morning, and she refused to give her any therapy because of how weak she has become. She gave her 2 weeks and would be surprised if she lived another month. Tomorrow evening Hospice is coming to make her "comfortable" until she passes away.
I haven't really dealt with anything like this before. I'm only 19. I have been taking care of me and it just never really got to me emotionally. But now it is just hitting me hard. I really have nobody else. Sure my parents, but they never call unless they want money or something. I will probably end up at my Grandma's until I can find housing at University. This is just coming so fast. Just a couple months ago we were out eating Chinese, I would take her to her flea markets, we could do everything together. Now I have to do everything on my own, grocery shopping, picking up her medicine, getting gas, paying her bills. And when those people ask where she is or how she's doing, I just say she's doing fine. I just can't seem to say that she's dying. I don't want her too.
I don't know what to do.
I haven't really dealt with anything like this before. I'm only 19. I have been taking care of me and it just never really got to me emotionally. But now it is just hitting me hard. I really have nobody else. Sure my parents, but they never call unless they want money or something. I will probably end up at my Grandma's until I can find housing at University. This is just coming so fast. Just a couple months ago we were out eating Chinese, I would take her to her flea markets, we could do everything together. Now I have to do everything on my own, grocery shopping, picking up her medicine, getting gas, paying her bills. And when those people ask where she is or how she's doing, I just say she's doing fine. I just can't seem to say that she's dying. I don't want her too.
I don't know what to do.
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well, death is a part of life.. very much inevitable.
you'll make peace with it eventually. your grandmother probably already has - having led a full life.
i don't know, maybe you should take these 2 weeks to talk to her and maybe, i don't know what caused the separation, talk to your parents.
theres also some comfort in mundane tasks - grocery shopping, paying bills etc, so focus on that while you're doing it.
i really don't know. i won't pray but i feel for you. good luck.
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I don't know what to say.I lost my dad before 11 months from cancer.I was at army back then with only 3 months left.
We have the same age,it was hard for me so it will be for you.
You have to start take some responsibilities from now.
Life has lot of slaps.It's not the first and surely not the last. -
In these last weeks don't be shy or awkward around her, it'll only make her uneasy. Tell her how much you love her and spend time with her.
Having someone close to you die is hard, and no matter what you do, you never entirely get over it. Honor her memory and try to make up with your parents, maybe this will shake them up enough to make them value their time with you. -
Sorry buddy. But I can relate. I've been living at my grandfather's for some time now. He is 92 and hes getting to the point where he can't walk. I'm scared to leave the house because he may fall down and I need to be there to help him up. I basically do everything, except pay the bills. My grandmother passed away recently and I'm scared he is going to go too. I'm not sure what I'll do when hes gone..
I'm sure your grandma has appreciated your company over the years. You should be happy you made her last years better. You'll always have memories with her, so keep that. You'll be okay. -
Sorry buddy. But I can relate. I've been living at my grandfather's for some time now. He is 92 and hes getting to the point where he can't walk. I'm scared to leave the house because he may fall down and I need to be there to help him up. I basically do everything, except pay the bills. My grandmother passed away recently and I'm scared he is going to go too. I'm not sure what I'll do when hes gone..
I'm sure your grandma has appreciated your company over the years. You should be happy you made her last years better. You'll always have memories with her, so keep that. You'll be okay.
That's really what worries me the most. I don't know what to do after. I have a counselor whom is helping me with job searching but I just feel like I won't find one soon enough.
There's days where she's fine, then days where she is out all day. She can barely walk now. Thank god she still has her mind though. I couldn't be around her if she got to the point where she didn't even know who I was. -
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I was thinking it was August, too. Don't know why.August 28
Sorry to hear. It stays with you. Lost both of my grandmothers and it doesn't go away. I find myself thinking about one or the other ever so often and will cry. So, I feel for you.
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